The Reclaim Your Power Program for women who are ready to get empowered, so they can start to empower the people they care about the most, their children!
You may be in the right place if you suffer from any of the following:
- Fear of relationships / trust issues
- Difficulty falling asleep
- Feeling “stuck”
- Pulled in many directions at once
- Fear of being alone
- Mood swings
- Loss of energy
- Health issues
- Negative thoughts or actions
- Or you simply want more out of life
You are in the right place if you can recognize any of the following behaviors in yourself:
- Ruminating: Talking or thinking about past events or people who hurt you
- Making excuses for not taking action
- Trying to control others and/or situations
Why do these behaviors matter?
If you are engaging in any of these five behaviors then you are leaving yourself powerless, which makes you less effective in empowering your own children. You can do everything and anything for your children, but if you are not empowered yourself, you are setting them up to struggle when challenging situations arise. As moms, we need to be the best we can to help empower our children, and these behaviors leave us powerless, making us less effective as role models.
Is this program right for you?
Take this little pop quiz to find out.
- I am a woman who wants to be a mom or who already is mom – new, middle-aged, or older
- Are you starting to feel worn out by tending to everyone’s wants & needs, while consistently disregarding your own?
- Are you tired of reliving negative past events & want to put an end to your negative internal chatter?
- Are you starting to resent someone else having control over how you feel & what you do?
- Are you beginning to doubt that there isn’t that much more to your life than your current circumstances?
- Are you fearful if you disappoint the people you love, your life will change and not for the better?
- Are you afraid that if you really go after your dreams, you will fall short or even fail?
- Are you living your life on auto-pilot, making your spirit starting to dim?
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions – then this program is perfect for you!
Give Yourself A Big Hug & A Pat On The Back!
Congratulations on having the courage to recognize the victim within yourself! One of the keys to becoming empowered is to put an end to behaviors that make you a victim. You are no different from anyone else when it comes to yielding to your victim story, but you are different because you are open to self-examination and change! That is a wonderful thing! Kudos to you!
The fact is that we all play the part of a victim at one time or another, and some play victim their whole lives. Take me for example. Throughout my life, I never wanted anyone to feel sorry for me, but one time, not too long ago, I remember tearfully telling “my story” to a spiritual healer and then proclaiming that I wasn’t a victim. After I had finished, he matter-of-factly responded, “Well, if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, guess what?”
Feeling embarrassed and quite self-absorbed, I then put my head down and said, “I get it. It’s a duck.” At that moment, I knew I had allowed myself to play victim, and looking back, I gotta tell you that it wasn’t a good look for me. I am very grateful for that Ah-ha moment and what it taught me. Now, I do my best to stay vigilant in watching out for any victim thinking that might try to enter my thoughts, so I can immediately stop those self-absorbing thoughts from spinning out of control. Because I am not perfect, victim thoughts may slip in from time to time, but due to my mindfulness, they do not last long at all.
For most of us, playing victim is something that we learned during our childhood and now is literally woven into the fabric of our brains. Although socially acceptable and highly contagious, victim thinking can hold us back in many areas of our lives and can often lead to pain and misery. The good news is that if you are willing to take inventory of your own victimizing behaviors, you can begin the process of change.
What motivated me to want to help women learn and grow in this area?
I was teacher for approximately 20 years, and I believed in teens and their potential. Even though they always had been one of my favorite groups of people, I saw that by the time they arrived to high school, many of them came with many issues, which made them be less successful in their academics and resulted in their making poor decisions. As much as I tried to help the teens who were visibly suffering, it was difficult to change them because they already formed many of their limiting beliefs, which as we know are difficult to change.
Throughout this 20 year span, I was also a mother to 5 children, my marriage was failing, two of my children started drinking and smoking pot, and I was turning myself inside-out trying to help, fix, and protect everyone I loved. The result was that even though I was a teacher at heart, I was falling short when it came to empowering my own kids because I wasn’t empowered myself. In addition to being powerless in helping my children, let alone myself, or anyone else I cared about, my health started to quickly decline, giving me a loud and clear wake-up call!
Then my life purpose became clear: If I wanted to help empower our future generations, so they wouldn’t suffer like so many teens do, I would have to help empower their greatest teacher of all, their moms, and that’s why I put together this program!
Even though I did all that I could to help my kids, it didn’t work because I wasn’t providing a model of empowerment. The preteen and teenage years can prove to be the most challenging, and if those teens don’t have a role model of strength and empowerment, they cannot become empowered themselves, setting them up for real challenges in the high school years. There’s no reason that a 16 or 17-year-old should have to go through so much pain and suffering when really that should be a wonderful time for him or her. All teens want to be accepted by their peers and be seen as having the same potential as everyone, but unfortunately when this doesn’t happen, teens act out by making poor choices, which can affect not only themselves, but the people that love them.
We need to start empowering our children, by empowering their mothers. It’s a fact that most moms put themselves last, making sure that everyone else’s needs are met, except their own. As moms, we are taught to be selfless and sacrificing, but by being so, we “loose ourselves”, which makes us less effective in helping the ones we care about most, our children. It’s every mother’s wish is that her children grow into happy, healthy, responsible adults, and it is my belief and my experience that in order to best help our children, so they can navigate successfully through their teenage and young adult years, we as mom, must model personal strength, acceptance, confidence, & universal trust.
As a participant in this empowering program, you will have the opportunity to:
- Determine exactly where you are loosing your power
- Identify the specific triggers involved
- Brainstorm more positive, more effective reactions to those triggers
- Reprogram your brain, so your new empowering reactions will be automatic & permanent
What This Transforming Program Offers:
4 Audio Modules:
Module 1: What Makes You A Victim? (Find out where exactly you are loosing your power.)
- To understand what victim behavior is & where your victim behavior comes from
- To pinpoint the specific behavior you want to change by using this program
- Identify the triggers for that behavior
- Come up with an alternative, more positive way to handle your trigger
Module 2: What Are YOU Getting From Being a Victim?
- To uncover what you really are getting from acting like a victim
- To uncover any fears your trigger may be pointing to & to learn how to lean into that fear
- To reframe your trigger so you see it as a learning experience for your soul
Module 3: Uncovering The Limiting Beliefs Associated with Your Trigger
- To uncover the limiting belief associated with your trigger
- To better understand the principles of Neuroplasticity & Visualization, so you can make them both more effective in helping you replace your victim behavior with a more positive behavior
- To determine your Vitamin C , what you need more of to act more positively when your trigger makes an appearance
Module 4: Putting Your New Reaction Into Place
- To walk you step by step through the interactive meditation associated with this program, so you are able to maximize your results
- To put your new reactions into 3 easy steps to help you reprogram your brain
The Guided Reflection Journal with 5 appendices guides you through reflections with each individual module, allowing you to get the most out of this transformational program.
The Digging Deeper explores each of the victim behavior in depth and offers explanations for people engaging in them. The purpose of this workbook is to offer understanding as to the motivation behind each behavior as well as give you an opportunity to deeply reflect on your own victim behavior.
Once you start to regain your power, you want to protect it by creating healthy boundaries with all of your primary relationships. Also included are worksheets to help you construct & enforce your newly established boundaries.
This 10-minute meditation on fear contains powerful affirmation and visualization techniques, encouraging you to lean into your fear by helping you trust in the Universe/Divine to always love, protect, & guide you.
This powerful meditation helps you reprogram your subconscious mind, helping you to replace your victim behaviors with more positive, empowering behaviors. This interactive meditation uses the power of binaural beats, visualization, & the principles of neuroplasticity.
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